Straight male strippers insist on only performing at gay clubs

Personally, the first bars I ever went to were gay male bars. I was underage and straight-identified a lot of the time, but they let me in! But when I entered these spaces, my expectations of service were low. I was a guest in their space. I deferred. You seem to love me now, but did you love me when I was down and out did you still have love for me straight girl.

Would the straight people happily attending our bars in have jostled for admission in ? In ?

Let’s Hash It Out: How Do You Feel About Men and Straight People Going To Lesbian Bars?

We fought hard for these spaces — once the only places where we could be ourselves — only to have them invaded by outsiders as soon as the stigma and legal threat faded. They go to Pride parades! But… Would every lesbian at the lesbian bar have jostled for admission in ? But but… The lesbians who were brave enough to go to the lesbian bars in probably have a right to be annoyed by fair-weather friends.

Three are gay and three are straight and you all wanna go out together and have fun. Do you go to the gay bar or the straight bar? I think probably I would suggest that we all come back to my place, get stoned, play Scattergories and eat Pumpkin Spice Oreos. Why would you even want to go to a lesbian bar? There is just no fucking reason for guys to be there.

Just why?!!? But… With so many lesbian bars shutting down, how much can anybody say our community is valuing this one precious space? And who, exactly, is the space for? Is it for all queers? If it is our collective oppression that enables us to feel comfortable excluding straight people, then we have to acknowledge the limits of that oppression.

When we talk about queer bars and parties we usually talk about bars and parties in large diverse cities like San Francisco and New York, but we forget that in rural or conservative areas of the country, a queer bar can actually be the only safe space available, period.

A masculine-of-center friend told me that queer bars are the only place she feels like she can breathe easy. The negative yelp reviews are revelatory in this instancebecause the gender presentation policing and derision of masculine or fat women by those reviewers is pretty merciless. Also, femme straight women could use a break from harassment, intimidation and unwanted sexual attention as well.

Why bring more negativity into the world? You could get really upset at these perceived intruders… or you could just hang out and have a good time. But… Some people are actual assholes!